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I found this article on Cessy's Xanga. There so much truth in what was said. You should read the ENTIRE THING! Its well worth it! It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated
and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about
our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were
slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too
argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess
baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by
Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women
are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at
themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in
public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so
appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley,
Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones,
James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding
Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley
Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I
wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of
your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead
you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from
one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor
of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major
corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be
among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set
the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one
of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were
considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very
strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because
of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it
up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are
docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities,
fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of
our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than
us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because
of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can
control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how
easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set
the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all
successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L.
Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the
script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who
openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert
DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking
that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when
black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties
and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw
meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It
was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black
women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands,
and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with
two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all
this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and
beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the
fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love
them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their
strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to
overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe
in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential
while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with
black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy
more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously
go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white,
then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to
inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances
so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the
black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over
and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a
Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking
for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not
and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
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