Dark Vs. Light

I am SO sick of the skin tone issue that people seem to like to bring up regularly (maybe not recently in here). African-American or Black PEOPLE come in various shades of brown. All of which are BEAUTIFUL. I made a video once that discussed the interest in interracial dating between Black women and Asian men (I also like Asians as well as White guys) and an Asian man left a comment stating that he hopes it's not offensive but he prefers lighter skin to darker skin and that the darker women in general get (including his fellow Asian women because he also dates within his race as well as outside of it) the less appealing they are to him.

Now, I was not offended. I left a quick comment saying that it may be because I'm light skinned that it did not offend me, and then I laughed and went off to class. I later made a video discussing that I don't find it offensive because everyone has their preferences in picking partners. He never said the darker you are the uglier you are or that he wouldn't be friends with darker women. Just that as far as dating and finding a mate he likes lighter skin.

I've heard many men also say that they want a darker woman and that lighter skin just won't do it for them. I've even been told (by men who were very much into black women) that I wasn't black enough because of the way I speak and act, as well as my general interests in music and my hobbies. That and I guess the way I dress? They stated they wanted a "Real" black woman.

I'm sorry, am I missing something here? I find that more offensive than someone saying "I like lighter skin it's just a preference". So because I'm not dark and don't behave in the way you perceive all Black people to be I'm not truly Black? Is there a handbook out there that I missed out on?

Back to my video... This girl decided to leave a comment stating that she was mad at me for not being offended by his statement. She said that I SHOULD be mad simply because I AM Black. She went on to say that I "felt the need to make sure to defend my lighter skin tone" Because I said that the lighting in my room may not show my true skin tone properly. I like it dark in my room. My mother has called me a gremlin because I cringed every time she opened my blinds mid-day.

This chick won't get off me about this crap and I'm about to go H.A.M. if she doesn't go somewhere. I'm proud of the skin I'm in. I don't need or want to change for anyone. She, in my opinion, has made this issue very one sided. As if it can't happen both ways. She has also made many false assumptions and accusations about myself as a person.

I think this subject needs to just die off. Love yourself and the skin you were born with. If haters are truly hating then let them. They're pathetic and you're better off without them. Black is beautiful and Black is Black no matter what shade it comes in. This little girl needs to get off me.