A Lesson on Owning Up

It's funny how some people are.

Ever notice when people say that they're not laughing...

I find it interesting, but not at all laughable that people (including myself at times I'm sure) have a tendency to put the blame of all the problems upon others. Pointing the finger at anyone, anything, everyone, and everything... Except for themselves.

It happens to the best of us, but while there are certain situations that can be considered to have a small chance that there may be other outside factors "against" you... There are some set in stone conditions in which your actions have lead you to this predicament and it is entirely your own fault.

When you lie to someone close to you repeatedly, and you are upset that they don't trust you anymore.... You have only yourself to blame for lying.

If they end your friendship it is not because "They are horrible friends who have abandoned you" It is because you have lied, and they have chosen not to accept your friendship any longer because you have violated the terms.

When you cheat on your SO and they don't forgive you... You have only yourself to blame for cheating.

It is not that they're just being insensitive and "don't understand why you did it" You may have a reason for why you've done it. "I wanted to find someone else, we weren't getting along as well anymore, I met someone new." That does not make it excusable. One should not be surprised if their SO leaves them because of that. Perhaps you could have done the honest and honorable thing and not cheat, as well as telling them how you feel and if things don't get mended, then break it off legitimately.

We all make choices in our lives, and those choices have consequences.

When you decide to cheat on your SO you've decided that your happiness matters more to you than theirs (in which why would you eve keep them around?), and when you decided to lie to someone usually it is not at all because you don't want to "hurt them with the truth", but that you want to get away with it. There is no "I lied to you because I didn't want to hurt you." It's actually an "I lied because I knew if you found out things wouldn't go perfectly my way, and I thought it best to keep you in the dark in order to make things work out for me at your expense."

People don't like to admit that. I think it's time to own up.